Using the Eff word on New Years Day?

When life is going better than expected, health is prime, that long-awaited baby is born, the job promotion is finally handed to you, you close on that 4 bedroom home, or …

~you get the idea.

That’s when the Eff word can creep in on us.   Foreboding.

According to Brene Brown (research professor and author of four #1 New York Times bestsellers), we gracefully allow joy to wash over us and then five seconds later the excitement is gone and we’re panicked about a bad thing that’s going to happen to counter the positive.

When’s the other shoe going to drop?

Let’s stop asking that question. Let’s take both shoes off and go barefoot through this New Year.  Let’s allow ourselves to actually feel everything… from the bottom of our barefoot sole to the top or our over-thinking monkey mind.

Brene gives us the most common example of foreboding.  Read on and ask yourself if you’ve been in these shoes.

The shoes of the parent who has stood over that sleeping child and thought, Oh God, I love this kid more than I knew was possible, and in that same second felt fear wash over you and picture something horrible  happening to your child?

Statistically, it’s about 90% of us.

My hand is up; I’m in that (top) 90%.

I’ve felt this; until now.

I’ve felt the need to prepare for the worst possible scenario. I say until now because I’m working on building up my gratitude bank; I know that worn notebook of mine, filled with a collection of awareness, living-in-the-moment, pieces of joy will build up my faith …and fill my emotional reserve with the vulnerability of joy.

Brene identifies joy as the most vulnerable emotion we feel; it’s an extremely fragile feeling …and that level of vulnerability can be frighteningly overwhelming.   This is when our joy becomes foreboding (if we allow it to scare us).

It’s not a helpful practice (and certainly not a healthy habit) to feel joy and then allow ourselves to expect, or even plan for, disappointment.

We can’t possibly prepare ourselves for pain or disappointment by foreboding joy; the Universe doesn’t make deals like that.

We deserve joy, He created us to be joyful.  Allowing ourselves to feel that ‘most vulnerable emotion’ and STAY IN IT is what helps to finance and prepare our emotional bank accounts.

We can’t be prepare for tragedy   …ask anyone who has lived through such tragedy.

We can’t anticipate tragedy like we pay for flood insurance.

We can find assurance and build our resilience by practicing moments of gratitude and remembering to celebrate every. single. one. of. our. many. joyful. moments.

“I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness–it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude.” ~ Brene Brown

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Speak only words of Kindness…

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♥For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others.

♥For beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness.

♥For poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.

~Audrey Hepburn

 

More Lip Love…  ↓↓↓

1. Moisturize regularly!

Did you know your lips are made of skin? The skin on your lips is significantly thinner than the skin on the rest of your body, and it doesn’t contain any sebaceous glands—the glands responsible for secreting oil onto your skin to help it stay moisturized. So how do your lips stay properly moisturized?

Their only source of natural moisture is through saliva, so your lips can become chapped very easily! Young Living has awesome lip balms that use a coconut oil base, as well as other natural ingredients such as beeswax, sweet almond oil, jojoba oil, rose hip oil, essential oils, and vitamin E. There are three flavors: Lavender, Cinnamint, and Grapefruit.

2. Protect!

Just like the skin on the rest of your body, the skin on your lips is sensitive and needs protection from the sun. When spending significant time outdoors, remember to add some of YL’s Mineral Sunscreen Lotion around your lip area. It’s infused with skin-loving essential oils such as Helichrysum, Carrot Seed, and Sacred Frankincense.


3. Exfoliate!

By exfoliating your lips, your lip balm will work more effectively. This will also make your lipsticks and glosses apply easier and look better throughout the day. We are super excited about the new YL Poppy Seed Lip Scrub: It gently exfoliates and can also be used as an overnight moisturizer. Win, win!

 

By the way  …have you seen our HOLIDAY lip balm COLLECTION?

Grab that once-a-year -4-pack! Vanilla Mint,  Lavender,  Cinnamint,  and Grapefruit!

 

→Got questions?  Ask me…

Email…  macphersonshelley@yahoo.com

→ Or on Facebook ~ Shelley Merrill MacPherson

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Can I be in Love Already?

“My original fears about changing to a new grade quickly disappeared as I moved from a curriculum-centered to a STUDENT CENTERED classroom.”
— Barbara Hanson, teacher at Willett School in Attleboro,  Massachusetts (Hanson, 1995).

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I’m welcoming my 14th year of classroom teaching this fall.

I specify classroom teaching because as a mom, I know that parents are our kiddos #1 teacher.

I’m working with the class of 2030 as all 27 of us become the change we want to see in this worthy world of ours.

Every single fall is different because not one single season of life is the same.

What’s the same for our classroom this year?

We all stuck together and moved our kindergarten classroom family to the 1st grade on the 2nd floor in what feels like the 3rd dimension of this continuous learning path.

The educational world calls this opportunity, Looping.

Looping: a term coined by Jim Grant, author of “The Looping Handbook,”
refers to the not-so-new but (fingers crossed) increasingly common practice of
keeping groups of students (classroom families) together for two (or more) years
with the same teacher.

This year that teacher is me and those kiddos are my family for another 185 days of life and learning.

Learning via Looping isn’t a new concept in education; it’s  been around for centuries. Remember that t.v. show, Little House on the Prairie? Mrs. Beadle was THE teacher in that old-school, one-room schoolhouse (year after year).

I like old-school in classroom design, I like old school in theory, and I’m already in love with Looping. namesticks

Here are a few lessons in looping from: “Looping: Supporting Student Learning Through Long-Term Relationships. ~ via Northeast and Islands Regional Educational THEMES IN EDUCATION Laboratory at Brown University.

ACADEMIC BENEFITS
■ Teachers gain extra teaching time. “Getting-to-know-you”
time becomes virtually unnecessary during the second year.
We don’t lose several weeks each September learning a new
set of names, teaching the basic rules to a new set of
students, figuring out exactly what they learned the
previous year. (Ratzki, 1988).
■ Teacher knowledge about a child’s intellectual strengths
and needs increases in a way that is impossible to
achieve in a single year. I had watched my students’ skills emerge and solidify. I was
able to reinforce those skills in a style that was consistent
over two years. (Jacoby, 1994).
■ “Long term teacher/student relationships improve…
student performance.” (George, 1987).

■ “Long term teacher/student relationships improve job
satisfaction for teachers.” (George & Oldaker, 1985).

■ Multi-year teaching offers tremendous possibilities for
summertime learning, such as summer reading lists, miniprojects,
and field trips. The thought of being able to ‘keep the ball rolling’ during
the summer recess seemed a logical and educationally sound
idea. (Killough, 1996).

 

SOCIAL ADVANTAGES
■ Students have reduced apprehension about the new school
year and the new teacher after the first year. (Hanson,
1995; Checkley, 1995a).

■ Students reap benefits from time spent on developing
social skills and cooperative group strategies in subsequent
years. (Hanson, 1995).
■ Looping permits students to get to know one another
well, facilitating social construction of knowledge.
(Zahorik and Dichanz, 1994). Students are better able to resolve conflicts and they are
more skillful in working as team members to solve
problems. (Hanson, 1995).
■ Long term relationships result in an emotional and intellectual
climate that encourages thinking, risk-taking, and involvement. (Marzano, 1992; Zahorik/Dichanz, 1994). The students have learned to take risks because they trust
each other. — April Schilb, teacher (Checkley, 1995).

■ Looping encourages a stronger sense of community and
family among parents, students, and teachers. (Checkley,
1995).

It’s the sense of community and belonging that allows us to build significant relationships in the classroom.

“No significant learning occurs without a significant relationship.”  ~James Corner

Dear educational system, please allow us the time (that we know matters) in our classrooms to build these relationships.  We’re raising young people, not just test scores.

Let that loop of logic run through your mind…

 

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If you must pick your nose, please do it in the bathroom …and then wash (both) hands.

I’m a kindergarten teacher.
I’m in one classroom alll day long with 23 5yr-olds. 
Here’s the common core math on that:  46 hands + 230 fingers = lots of soap and water.
Read as, “I know how to support and maintain a healthy immune system.” 
 
Don’t just take my word on this; do your own research. 
Sounds very teacher like, huh?  
As an educator, I know that when we learn by doing, we learn more.
 
People often raise their hand and ask, “Why should I choose Young Living?”
… to which I answer,
“Research the company you’re considering buying your oils from; ask them just one question, “Where are your FARMS located?”
 
You may quickly discover there are NO FARMS; there are factorie$.
Anything that comes from nature -with no hand of man to do it better (insert eye roll here) cannot be patented. 
You cannot patent nature.
I believe that everything we need to maintain our health and well-being, has already been given to us; someone else (high above) had first dibs on that.
 
I chose Young Living because I’ve been to their farms, I’ve met the real life people (and the very pampered animals) who work on those farms. 
Go visit their farms for yourself; no need to sign in at the ‘office’ or even get a visitors pass, just go.horse
I’ve shaken the (no nose-picking) hand of of the man who founded this company more than 2 decades ago. I’ve put my hand (all 10 fingers) in the soil where the oils are grown; I’ve seen the Seed to Seal guarantee from Young Living in process
These oils work for me; I give them an A in my grade book. 
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I Am.

As we scroll through Facebook,  we notice the too many posts about people telling us they’re sick.

We’re all human; I confess, even me.  We get sick, even me.

I post a LOT on Facebook, I don’t post about being sick.

I don’t talk about being sick; I talk about wellness.

Maintaining our wellness is easier than fixing our illness.

How do we maintain our wellness?

♥ Try your grandmother’s recipe:

  1. Wash your hands with soap and water; hand sanitizer is not a substitute for soap and water.
  2. Get outside.  Take your shoes off.
  3. Eat healthy, think balance.
  4. Drink plenty of fluids; stay hydrated (vodka and craft beer don’t count).
  5. Maintain regular sleep patterns; you can’t catch up on your sleep.
  6. Use your oils faithfully.
  7. Practice your faith.

Ever wonder why we’re hearing so much about sickness at this festive time of year?  You can blame it on stress, should you believe that stress is real   …and blame it on not doing what your grandmother told you to do.

There’s good stress (shopping for Christmas, planning a wedding, awaiting the arrival of a baby, moving into a new home)…and there’s bad  not good stress (death of a family member, job loss, divorce); it’s all stress.

When under stress, our immune system is both stimulated and compromised at the same time; our body revs up our natural defenses, our body doesn’t let us down.

Think about that tiny little baby bundled up and toted all around during the Christmas holiday, they somehow manage to ‘sleep through it all’ …yet, do you notice that when they get home, they ‘let go’… the crying and fussing begin.

Think primal times… your body is not going to quit when it’s being chased by a predator.

Once that stress is over, you’ve outrun the predator, the Christmas gifts are under the tree, the perfect wedding was pulled off, the new home is settled, you’ve found that new job… your body may decide “Okay, it’s safe to let go now.”

Letting go when it’s safe to let go has been termed, “Leisure Sickness”.   via Web MD

“Your immune system is stimulated by the pressure, so when you have deadlines your body knows you can’t get ill. When you take a break your immune system just thinks – no more pressure. I can get sick now.”

When you stop working: “It’s like a fuse, with your brain telling your body it can switch off, so you get a cold or a headache.”

Stress counselor and lifestyle expert Liz Tucker totally agrees with the phenomenon of leisure sickness.

“It is absolutely a biological process. When you are busy at work, your body just needs to get things done so it overrides everything else.”
It’s when you stop that the problems start.  

She says when you relax your body goes, “Oh my God [it’s] time to repair and restore,” so you get rundown and go down with something.”

I believe in the phenomenon of Leisure Sickness; I believe more in the power of mind over matter and the consistent practice of conscious language.

Repeat after me, “I am well.”

For more information about living life above the wellness line, find me here.

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My First Love

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Believe in love at first sight?

I do.

See, I met this girl.  Exactly 30 years ago tomorrow.

The first time I held her in my arms, I was nearly speechless.

All I could manage… was to ask, “How are you?”

If she could’ve answered me, instead of screaming her brand new lungs out, she would’ve said,

“Mom.  Stop.  I am fine.”

She was fine, she was just fine.

She is still fine.

She is 30 years old; to me, she is still brand new.

To me, Allie is still

  • A toddler who always got her way (my new-mom mistake)!
  • The 6 yr old who stole a Hershey bar from Rite Aid (where her dad worked).
  • A vain 8yr old who decided to change her eye color with a Crayola crayon -Ouch!
  • The mouthy pre-teen who spent more time grounded than she did free.
  • A high school senior who continually threatened to quit the family…
  • An independent college…

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Put THAT on my Tombstone.

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I am an extremist, a perfectionist, an overachiever, and a closet introvert.

This doesn’t mean I’m perfect, it means I nearly kill myself, (and those around me), aiming for perfect, trying to always do it right, do it now, and do my best.

What I’m not?  I’m not invincible.

I think Oprah, (or a Greater Power), came to me in a moment of downtime.

Downtime?  Read as: <must have caught me during my sleep>

Life, (or Oprah), is always bringing us lessons to learn.  Listen.

It would be so much more beneficial if we could listen and learn the first time.

Many of us need the same lesson over and over.  Again.

See my hand high in the air?

What have I learned lately?

I’ve learned that if we don’t know enough to slow down, something will come into our lives to do it for us.

We allow priorities to get shuffled around…

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Orange you glad you’ve got tangerine oil?

Tangerine is a member of the citrus family; it closely resembles a mandarin orange.

Tangerine essential oil ((Citrus reticulata)) is cold pressed from the rind of the fruit.  The oil is orange-yellow in color and has a sweet orange fragrance.  Its aroma is very citrus-y (duh) and sweet.  ~via Sustainable Baby Steps blog

Tangerine supports the immune system, the integumentary System, the digestive system, and it supports our emotional well-being;  I call it my ‘Happy Oil’.

 

How can I use Tangerine Essential Oil aromatically?

  • Simply open the bottle and sniff!  #ThatSimple
  • Put 3-5 drops on a cotton ball and tuck it in your car vent
  • Put a few drops in a spray bottle with distilled water (and a pinch of Epsom salt) to freshen the air

 

Diffuser Blends:

  • Welcome Spring:  4 drops each of  Spearmint, Lemongrass, Tangerine,
  • Summer: 2 drops Lavender, 1 drop Spearmint, 1 drop Lime, 4 drops Tangerine
  • Just Beachy: 2 drops each of Bergamot, Spearmint, Tangerine
  • Happy Place: 2 drops each of Orange, Lime, Tangerine

 

How can I use Tangerine Essential Oil topically?

  • Refreshing Sugar Scrub: Mix 2 cups brown sugar, 1/4 Cup coconut oil, and 10 drops each Tangerine and Spearmint essential oils. Store in an air tight glass container.
  • Mood Lifting (non-toxic) Perfume: In a 10 ml roller bottle, combine 3 drops Ylang Ylang, 3 drops Bergamot, 9 drops Clary Sage, 9 drops Lavender, and 12 drops Tangerine essential oils. Top with fractionated coconut or other carrier oils. Apply to pulse points throughout the day.*

 

How can I use Tangerine Vitality Essential Oil internally?

  • Tangerine fruit dip: 2 8oz packages of cream cheese, 1 cup vanilla yogurt, 1/2 cup honey, 2 drops Tangerine Vitality oil.  Just mix, chill, and dip in!
  • Drop it in your daily shot of NingXia!
  • Drop it on your toothbrush.  #WhiteTeeth

 

How can I get Tangerine Essential oil for FREE? MAY PROMO2

*As with all citrus oil, avoid direct sunlight for a minimum of 12 hours after topical application.

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Because it’s the Human Touch that really matters.

I used to work across the hallway from a ‘seasoned teacher’… she encouraged me daily (sometimes on the hour) to just be, to just r-e-l-a-x.

That seasoned teacher is now a retired teacher who still cheers me on with her many mantras of good old fashioned truths:

Be available.
Be kind.
Be compassionate.
Be transparent.
Be real.
Be thoughtful.
Be yourself.

Read more about what really matters in the classroom (and in life), right HERE 

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If you MUST drink Coffee…

At the height of my addiction (caffeine is a drug), I kept a coffee maker on my nightstand; not kidding.

It was one of those coffee makers that was programmed to start brewing at a certain time of day (or very early morning in my life …3:47 am).

That coffee maker was my alarm clock; I literally woke up read as got up to the smell of coffee.

*Side note: Just the smell of coffee has an effect on your body (more of that later). 😉

Flash forward to the now:  Over the past few years, I’ve cut down to 1 cup of coffee …K-cup style on the busy mornings, French Press on the ‘got some time for this today’ days.  DD on those days I don’t like to talk about.

I cut back way back, I used to finish that entire pot of coffee on my nightstand before I left for work in the morning.   I downed my dosage because I learned that coffee lowers your body’s frequency; (frequency is a very big deal) …even just the smell of coffee can have THAT effect on your energy level.  Ironic, right?

My diffuser one of my many now sits where that coffee pot used to fire up my morning.   Daybreak is now filled with natural energy,  and mood maintaining peppermint essential oil,   not brown liquid.

Confession: ughh…I do still reach for that 1 cup of brown liquid per day.  I mix in a spoonful of coconut oil and top it with cinnamon vitality essential oil; this is my bridge to cutting the caffeine fix.   My goal for 2017 is to eliminate that cup of coffee completely.

btw..Ever wonder why Starbucks keeps that cinnamon shaker filled and ready for you? It does something to your coffee… go find that out.  #KnowBetter

 Now that I know better, I want to do better.  Stay tuned.cinnamon

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