The Arrogance of Health

          “Not Fade Away”  …A Short Life Well Lived

The title of the book intrigued me.  The story inspires me.

I found it at the library book sale, it’s the true story of Peter Barton, a young man dying of cancer,  simultaneously learning to live.

 I think it’s really something.

I  teach my kindergarten students to make connections between their books and their life.  This story helped me to reflect on my life.  On life in general.  And on dying.

At this time of year, we are all conscious of counting our blessings.

Thanksgiving is here, now.  Today.

It’s my favorite time of year.

No gifts, no commercialism,  no office parties…just family, friends and food.

The best part is… I have my family all together under one roof, if only for a day.

 I think that’s really something.

Thanksgiving Day is a reminder to slow down and be grateful.

Like most people, I too have focused on gratitude, but what’s at the root of appreciating all that we have?

I have my family and we have our health.  Kinda.

My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer more than 7 years ago.  He’s been through surgery, radiation and chemotherapy.

He’s been through a lot.  You just wouldn’t know it.  He doesn’t complain.

Cancer saved my dad’s life, THAT is his attitude.

I think that’s really something. 

He knows now what some of us like to think we know.

What do I know?  I know that he will always be here for me.

Even when he isn’t here anymore.

 I have many of his traits.

I’m opinionated, stubborn, strong-willed, independent to a fault and…loud-mouthed.

I inherited it all from him (and his dad).  I am grateful. It makes me strong to a fault.

Dad knows that I got it all from him.  ‘Cause I’ve told him so. With my loud mouth.

…And I’ve thanked him, just not enough!

I’ve taken for granted that he’s my dad and he’ll be around forever.

We take lots of things and people for granted.

Often lost to clichés and Hallmark cards, our ability to get up everyday and live life as we choose, not limited by chronic pain or a terminal diagnosis, allows us to forget about what we can’t do, because we can do it.  We can be arrogant like that.


“I’ve come to realize, that up until now,

I’ve been guilty of the arrogance of health.”   …Peter Barton


 Taking our health for granted is so easy to do.  But we know there are many people who hurt everyday.  And guess what?  They don’t complain.  They face their challenges and surpass them, over and over.

 Little things don’t get them down, they don’t let them.  There is no time for that.

Life is in perspective.

Because they know what is something …and what is nothing.

>>Yes, please click that link.  Just in case you’re still taking someone or something for granted.

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7 Responses to The Arrogance of Health

  1. reenie says:

    Tomorrow my 18 year old daughter and I will attend the funeral of a 17 year old girl in her youth group (She was in a terrible car accident. )…… There is an arrogance to health , but there is also an arrogance to life. We live like we will continue forever, but we know that isn’t really true, we often forget to say thank you , we often forget to say I love you , and we think we can say it later, and yet sometimes we can’t – we live, we laugh and if we are blessed we are loved. Thanksgiving is a time of reflection , a time to not only say thank you , but to also look around and SEE what is really important. It never was about the popularity, the money, the prestige, or the adoration of others. It has always been about the relationships we form, the bonds we make, and how they help to challenge us , to bring out of us the best we can be, and yes even sometimes to be brutally honest with us. Your dad has so many good things – His very best – His Girls! So happy for you that you could enjoy your day with your family……. relationships – when all is said and done it is the most valued “possession” we have. We take what they give us and some pieces of who they are end up becoming a small part of who we are, and like you said they never leave us alone, even when they leave us ….. Love to you and yours Shelley Blessings !!!!!! (Lots of them) ! Love your post (as usuall!) 🙂

  2. Ron Merrill says:

    Love you Shelley. Your words about me are so kind and your gratitude for all the good things in your life is wonderfull. I thank the Lord over and over again for giving me two precious daughters. Remember as I do that bad happenings are great also because they help you grow and learn to rely on the Lord to give you the strength to make it through the dark shadows of life. I pray that even when I am with my father in Heaven that I will be able to reach out to you girls with a helping and loving hand. Also remember that wisdom is something you get when it is too late. Never stop learning and loving the Lord and thanking him for EVERYTHING good and bad.

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  4. liz says:

    Shelley, you simply amaze me more and more. I have come to know you fairly well (at least I think so) and the more I get to know you better, you make me realize that there is always someone out there with something worse going on and living life to the fullest. You are a wonderful teacher, mentor, parent, sister, daughter, and friend and I also count my blessings for knowing you

  5. DAD says:

    Shelley, I wish that I had your foresight when I was your age. I was lost when I was your age, but now I have the Lord to help me with all my weaknesses. I love you girls and I always will. May God Bless You and your sister and husbands and children.

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